The Happiness Diet: A Diet for the Mind

Happiness Diet
Written by Nanci Sherman

Just as you can’t get to your ideal weight on a diet of potato chips and fudge, living happily ever after requires that we add and eliminate certain ingredients. With the Happiness Diet, you can:

  • Feel better. Live your best possible life. 
  • Have more fun. Blondes don’t have nearly the fun happy people do.
  • Live happy, whole and free.
  • Be able to look back at any point on the journey and think, “I had a wonderful time.”
  • Achieve freedom from rampant, redundant emotional garbage.

The Happiness Diet Trifecta – What’s on the Menu?

The Happiness Diet Increases Mental Fitness

If we don’t floss our minds every now and then, we end up with the same decay and poor health that affect our teeth. Start each day fresh without the psychological babble by monitoring your thoughts. They are a guideline to how you are doing.  Life is a buffet. Put on your plate only what you really want. Clarity is the greatest gift we can give ourselves. 

Feel Joy on the Happiness Diet

Distinct from feeling good for this reason or that, joy is a persistent state of happiness. The amount of joy we experience daily is in direct proportion to fulfilling our greatest potential and being satisfied for no reason at all. Feeling good becomes your predominant emotion regardless of conditions and other people.                    

Realize Self-Actualization with the Happiness Diet 

Wake up to and fulfill your personal social, intellectual and creative potential while enjoying a pervasive sense of well-being and satisfaction with life.

Some people know early on they want to be a singer, a soldier, a producer, a teacher. We’re not all that lucky. We might not know what we want in terms of relationships, adventures and work, but we know what doesn’t make us happy. We know there’s a proverbial needle in the haystack; we just don’t know where to begin looking for it. Like the expression, “You can’t see the forest for the trees,” if we focus on our obstacles instead of our deepest desires, we lose sight of the greatest spectacle of all — what our life could be.

If you follow the path of the Happiness Trifecta, your true north will be revealed to you. In the meantime, stay mentally fit, seek joy above drama and your path will unfold to you.

Our Life is a Direct Result of Our Choices

“Once in a while you get shown in the light
In the strangest of places if you look at it right…” 

— Music by Jerry Garcia; lyrics by Robert Hunter

Diets, like life, are all about what we choose to include and exclude to achieve a desired result. By floundering around, little by little you may discover what makes you happy. What are your greatest wishes and dreams? 

If you cannot be specific, that’s okay. Ask yourself how you want to feel. Are you a nurturer, a visionary? Does risk scare you or light you up?  When you enjoy the feeling, a path will start to show itself to you. The Happiness Diet will surely speed its arrival.

The Happiness Diet is organic and gluten free. Do engage in healthy doses of the following:

The Happiness Diet Menu


Upon “waking up,” gargle with a full glass of awareness. Say to yourself: “I will be aware of my moods today, taking in only what serves me.” A diet is always about choice.

Main Dishes


Even if you don’t know what you do want, you know what you don’t want. Learn to avoid what you don’t want, whether it’s a relationship or pursuit you don’t enjoy. When you know what you do want, hold to the dream.

Learn to be okay with uncertainty and not knowing

This is also known as patience. Paths unfold when they do, not before. Even though you can’t see it, the elements are forming and will greet you when they synchronize. Timing is none of our business. Enjoy the now with a side of “grit”s.

Read the signs

When things seem to be working out for you, it’s a sign you are on the right path. Acknowledge successes.

Embrace new approaches

Do you keep hitting walls with the same approach?  What else could you try?


Nothing is more delicious and satisfying than acknowledging positive results. Enjoy your choices now, for they will be living with them tomorrow and tomorrow, until a new result is on your menu.

Check, please. 

Junk Mind Diet: What to Avoid


There aren’t any. There is nothing appetizing about an unfulfilled life.

The Whine List

Notice what you complain about daily. Every complaint is a sign you are asking for things to be different. How long has this been going on? Is it time to take the “weight off?” If you know what you don’t want, you know what you do want. 

Main dishes

Other people’s diets

We all have tastes for something different. There is no need to partake from the same buffet the people who went before you took. Try something new that lights you up.


Obstacles often disguise themselves as rock solid reality. For a million dollars, could you really not get around what you are calling an obstacle?

Reasons, excuses and “shoulds”

These are saboteurs keeping you from what you most want. They masquerade as the truth, but that is just the ego taking it easy. Reasons and excuses are no substitute for results.

Judgement and criticisms

These are poisonous curses we lay on ourselves and others. Spit them out as soon as you can taste them.


Bad juju upsets everyone. It ages you and keeps you stuck in old patterns. 


All the above items come with “just desserts.” In other words, you get what you put out. 

Everything in your life relies upon your singular perspective. How do you know when to shift yours? If an overwhelming sense of love, appreciation, kindness and enthusiasm is not a familiar mentality, then it’s time. When your life is more about putting out fires than casting a dream net, it’s time.

Just like a change in diet shifts what you want to see in the world, so does a change of mind. Think of the Happiness Trifecta as the Try-it Diet. Happiness loves company as much as misery does. But more.

Please pass the joy.

Bon Appetit!

About the author

Nanci Sherman

Nanci Sherman is a lifestyle and luxury hotelier, writer and thought leader on happiness. She’s led some of the more iconic luxury hotels and resorts in the United States and spoken on the “happiness business” on three continents. She’s the author of “Follow Your Bliss, Not Your Blisters: How to Live Unconditionally Happy.”      

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